In the book You Are A Badass, Jen Sincero teaches you how to become self-aware, decide out what you want in life, and then muster the courage to not worry about how to get it, to ignore other people's opinions, and to focus your life on what will make you happy. You Are A Badass is the culmination of the years Jen Sincero has spent helping individuals convert their life from losers to winners, and it's jam-packed with entertaining anecdotes and essential life lessons.
You have complete control over how you spend your time, therefore how you allocate it reveals your genuine priorities, regardless of what you claim they are. Naturally, pursuing a faraway desire implies prioritizing oneself over others, which always has consequences. Being serious entails putting in long hours, days, months, and years of effort. You're going to lose some pals. You'll be less likely to attend happy hours and football games. You'll be made fun of. Ridiculed. It was made fun of. But none of that counts if you're content to spend your time pursuing something others won't: to truly pursue your dream, you must unleash your inner badass.
Know what you want, but be open to different approaches. Sincero recommends finding out what you want but not stressing over how you're going to get there. Know what you want, but be open to different approaches. Using the example of an aspiring writer, here's how Jen approach’s that particular dream:
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Make the decision that you want to be a writer.
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Begin writing.
There isn't much else to say about it. Assume you're walking through a densely forested area. As you proceed, you'll discover and shape your own route. Writing, not seeking comfort from other authors, is the most reassuring thing you can do to gain the confidence to call yourself a writer. With more and more hours of writing practice under your belt, you'll find yourself in a virtuous cycle that reinforces your positive attitude and encourages you to write even more. This is what allows you to make progress toward your objective. There will be no planning, debating, or scheming.
Change your surroundings if they aren't supportive of you. It's time to make some adjustments if your surroundings, habits, friends, or even family aren't helping you on your way to a life you'll be glad you lived when it's finished. They might be internal or external, as long as they move your life's focus to making your dream the focal point. If an old buddy you visit once a month spends the most of your conversation time ridiculing your writing endeavors, perhaps you can save an hour a month and devote it to writing instead. These choices are simple, but they will significantly reduce the number of regrets we have at the end of our life.